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Though Matt loved the sex itself, it wasn't long after orgasm that he felt a throat-clenching sense of anxiety. I was so afraid [thinking of] how I'd tell anybody. A disease that anybody could acquire had become a profound symbol of the cultural stigma against queer sexuality and sex.
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We are not men. Yes, we were born boys and some of us may have the same genitals, however, there is more to a relationship than just your junk. And hey, there are many "straight" couples who incorporate "pegging" or strap-ons into their sex lives.
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